At your doctor's visit on the 14th of December here were your stats:
Weight: 29 lbs. 50-75th %
Height: 37 inc. 75-90 %
I don't remember your head circumference but it was big :b
You're in full contrary mode right now. It's very difficult. Mommy always feels like the bad guy. Your Mama never scolds you. Your dad is a softie (just cause he's such a dear), and I am always the one yelling, disciplining you. Now whenever I start telling you "NO", you start whining immediately for Daddy. Breaks my heart. Let's hope this doesn't continue when you're older. Here's to wishing.
P.S. Mommy has her days but I love you so much.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Missing My Daughter
I don't work but I go to school full-time. It's tough. I am in an accelerated program and it is busy as busy can be. True, we are in class only 2x a week from 5:30-10p but when you've got two tests in one week, each covering 10-14 chapters EACH, you better be hitting the books in between. Those 2 days, I already miss dinner, storytime and bedtime. Those other days when I'm with my study groups, or I'm in a library or book store studying all by my lonesome, I miss a heck of a whole lot more.
So I miss Mina. My husband, yes I miss him too but he doesn't go around preferring someone else when I'm not around as much (I hope hehe). Mina does. She's Daddy's girl. I want her to be my girl because she is the absolute most adorable thing in my life.
Yesterday I took her to the park to make up for it. We brought food to feed the duckies and she looked so funny trying to throw it to them and having it land only a few feet in front of her. The ducks would go nowhere near it. Then I had her on the swing for a while. And she did the slides a few times. But her favorite part was the sand in the playground. She just sifted through her closed fists again and again, fascinated. She was barefoot, insisting I took off her boots and socks. This girl does not like playing in shoes anywhere except the house. I know some parents would have had a fit at the thought of all those germs in such a common area as a playground. But what the heck, I wanter her to play. I followed her, and played with her a little bit while messing with the sand but mostly I just watched. I wanted to take a picture of her but I remembered that I forgot to bring it. So the image of her just rolling the sand through her fingers will just forever be in my mind. Her hair in a ponytail, her pink tracksuit smudged with dirt and chocolate, her bare toes peeking out from under her bottom. It's all in my mind. And I hope to never forget it.
So I miss Mina. My husband, yes I miss him too but he doesn't go around preferring someone else when I'm not around as much (I hope hehe). Mina does. She's Daddy's girl. I want her to be my girl because she is the absolute most adorable thing in my life.
Yesterday I took her to the park to make up for it. We brought food to feed the duckies and she looked so funny trying to throw it to them and having it land only a few feet in front of her. The ducks would go nowhere near it. Then I had her on the swing for a while. And she did the slides a few times. But her favorite part was the sand in the playground. She just sifted through her closed fists again and again, fascinated. She was barefoot, insisting I took off her boots and socks. This girl does not like playing in shoes anywhere except the house. I know some parents would have had a fit at the thought of all those germs in such a common area as a playground. But what the heck, I wanter her to play. I followed her, and played with her a little bit while messing with the sand but mostly I just watched. I wanted to take a picture of her but I remembered that I forgot to bring it. So the image of her just rolling the sand through her fingers will just forever be in my mind. Her hair in a ponytail, her pink tracksuit smudged with dirt and chocolate, her bare toes peeking out from under her bottom. It's all in my mind. And I hope to never forget it.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Dressing A Daughter
Things have been a bit crazy for us this past well, couple of years. What with my change of career and going back to school, and Woody's joining of the Army. Finances have been tight, schedules have been hectic. Vacation's been scarce (Waaaah! Enough about that). I used to have money to buy not just practical outfits from Target and Old Navy, which are cute but let's face it, a bit uninspired, to more stylish baby clothes from Baby Gap, Ralph Lauren, Lucky Kid, and Baby Dior (kidding about Dior). See, Mina for the fist 1.5 year of her life had no shortage of cute outfits. We had clothes galore from my baby shower, from gifts for her first birthday given by relatives and friends. We had a huge birthday party for her 1st one so that comes as no surprise.
Behold, an absence of pink!
Her second was a bit more understated. We got mostly cash. Her cute outfits are dwindling. Most of the stuff in her closet are proudly marked Target and Old Navy. Both stores like a lot of pink and I vowed to NOT dress her all pink before I had her. I tell you, it's hard!
I've been delegating her care to her Dad a lot more these days, since I'm so busy with school. Once he's gone, care will go to my Mom most likely, who has no problems with pink. But I was inspired lately by Sweet Fine Day's Jenna, who dresses her kids in stylish, low on pink fashion. I love it. I must admit I whipped out the credit card and just dropped a little over a hundred dollars on 5 pieces of clothes and shoes for the little one over at Crewcuts and yes, Baby Gap! This after already dropping some cash for more (pink!) stuff at Target the other day.
No, I didn't buy her Stella McCartney's new collection for babyGap (Lord, they are expensive!). I noticed most of the stuff I ended up buying were still in the pink family, but they call it guava, and light flamingo. I bought her pink shoes too. Ok, so that was a fail in no pink. But they were the only cute things on sale. Crewcuts isn't in the vicinity of Old Navy pricing.
Anyway, what's my point? My point is, I am overly concerned with how my daughter dresses. I secretly gloat that she is one of the best-dressed kid in her class. I love, love, love that she's a girl. Cause no matter how many cutesy things they try to come up for boys, it's just not as fun. For example, look at this cute picture:
I think that picture says it all. She insisted on adding the flower and tutu to the outfit by the way.
Mina, when you're older and read this, I hope you appreciate how cutely I tried to dress you.
Behold, an absence of pink!
Her second was a bit more understated. We got mostly cash. Her cute outfits are dwindling. Most of the stuff in her closet are proudly marked Target and Old Navy. Both stores like a lot of pink and I vowed to NOT dress her all pink before I had her. I tell you, it's hard!
I've been delegating her care to her Dad a lot more these days, since I'm so busy with school. Once he's gone, care will go to my Mom most likely, who has no problems with pink. But I was inspired lately by Sweet Fine Day's Jenna, who dresses her kids in stylish, low on pink fashion. I love it. I must admit I whipped out the credit card and just dropped a little over a hundred dollars on 5 pieces of clothes and shoes for the little one over at Crewcuts and yes, Baby Gap! This after already dropping some cash for more (pink!) stuff at Target the other day.
No, I didn't buy her Stella McCartney's new collection for babyGap (Lord, they are expensive!). I noticed most of the stuff I ended up buying were still in the pink family, but they call it guava, and light flamingo. I bought her pink shoes too. Ok, so that was a fail in no pink. But they were the only cute things on sale. Crewcuts isn't in the vicinity of Old Navy pricing.
Anyway, what's my point? My point is, I am overly concerned with how my daughter dresses. I secretly gloat that she is one of the best-dressed kid in her class. I love, love, love that she's a girl. Cause no matter how many cutesy things they try to come up for boys, it's just not as fun. For example, look at this cute picture:
I think that picture says it all. She insisted on adding the flower and tutu to the outfit by the way.
Mina, when you're older and read this, I hope you appreciate how cutely I tried to dress you.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Hi Mina Bina
Here's mommy popping in for a quick update again.
Your stats:
Weight: stuck at 28 lbs. You've gained like 4 oz. in 1 year.
Height: 3 ft! According to the height predictors you should be at least 5'6 as an adult. We'll see.
Mood: most of the time, very contrary but tonight, extremely cooperative, cute, charming. We were at a Pho restaurant with your Dad and you charmed the pants off everyone. Why we didn't get a free meal out of it I'll never know (hehe)
Achievements: You made a stack out of 4 thin cylindrical sticks! Very impressive. You recognize and name the letters M and O. You know your colors except you don't have brown, gray and purple down yet. Your favorite song is Shakira's She-Wolf. Don't ask me why. You like to play ring around the rosy.
The other day you made a swipe at me as if to hit me, but you missed on purpose. Then you asked "Are you happy, Mommy? I didn't hit you!" Hahah! Classic.
We love you. Till the next update.
Your stats:
Weight: stuck at 28 lbs. You've gained like 4 oz. in 1 year.
Height: 3 ft! According to the height predictors you should be at least 5'6 as an adult. We'll see.
Mood: most of the time, very contrary but tonight, extremely cooperative, cute, charming. We were at a Pho restaurant with your Dad and you charmed the pants off everyone. Why we didn't get a free meal out of it I'll never know (hehe)
Achievements: You made a stack out of 4 thin cylindrical sticks! Very impressive. You recognize and name the letters M and O. You know your colors except you don't have brown, gray and purple down yet. Your favorite song is Shakira's She-Wolf. Don't ask me why. You like to play ring around the rosy.
The other day you made a swipe at me as if to hit me, but you missed on purpose. Then you asked "Are you happy, Mommy? I didn't hit you!" Hahah! Classic.
We love you. Till the next update.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Where Have I Been?
Guess I've been guilty living life, twittering, facebooking to a lesser degree, going back to school, writing, studying, watching Mad Men, etc. etc.
But this was intended for Mina to have a look-back on her childhood years and get a sense of her accomplishments and milestones. Mommy's doing a poor job baby.
First, you're in the full throes of your terrible two's. You've yet to throw a full-blown tantrum, I think except once. But you'll say the sky isn't red if I say it is, and you'll say it is if I say it wasn't. You want everything opposite of what everyone else says, and you are very vocal about it. You have me tearing my hair out frankly...Where'd my sweet girl go?
As for actual milestones, you're either 2'9 or 2'11 as of right now. Two different measuring devices give me two different readings. You're 27.6 lbs. You're just growing taller and not gaining weight as fast...Mommy's a bit worried about that but you're in the normal range so I guess that's ok.
I start potty-training you tomorrow, with the help of the entire household (so I hope). Here goes nothing....
But this was intended for Mina to have a look-back on her childhood years and get a sense of her accomplishments and milestones. Mommy's doing a poor job baby.
First, you're in the full throes of your terrible two's. You've yet to throw a full-blown tantrum, I think except once. But you'll say the sky isn't red if I say it is, and you'll say it is if I say it wasn't. You want everything opposite of what everyone else says, and you are very vocal about it. You have me tearing my hair out frankly...Where'd my sweet girl go?
As for actual milestones, you're either 2'9 or 2'11 as of right now. Two different measuring devices give me two different readings. You're 27.6 lbs. You're just growing taller and not gaining weight as fast...Mommy's a bit worried about that but you're in the normal range so I guess that's ok.
I start potty-training you tomorrow, with the help of the entire household (so I hope). Here goes nothing....
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Mina Turns Two and I Brag
Hey if there's a time in a Mom's life she can brag about her child, it has to be around her child's birthday. I've mentioned before how adorable she is right? Right?
She is so charming, she charms the pants off people. In fact, I've had to make several trips to Levi's to buy myself and other people pants that she's charmed off, that's how charming she is.
She has the best eyes. Large and dark, and long-lashed.
She has the prettiest curls. I can literally stare at them for hours. I twirl the ends of her hair on my forefinger and they turn into little ringlets. Little ringlets that stay until she jumps up and down and bounces the heck out of them.
When she was 18 mos. old I found this article about gifted children (not that I was searching for articles like that, who me?). One of the traits of gifted children is apparently advanced vocabulary. By 18 mos. Mina was speaking in 2-3 word sentences. I mean, pretty advanced is what I thought. Apparently, a vocabulary list of 100 before age 2 is almost always a sign of giftedness. I stopped at 100 even though she knew even more words than that. I was tickled pink.
Now at almost two (Aug. 15th!) I can pretty much hold a conversation with Mina. We negotiate, she tells me stories, she tells me what she's thinking. It's pretty amazing.
We are having a little get-together with just family this Saturday for her official birthday. Next weekend we are going to Disneyland! I can't wait!
She starts preschool on Tuesday. Yes, preschool. This is one baby that is really craving for companionship and more challenge, and I hope preschool gives it to her. I feel really good about the idea of preschool right now, but a part of me can't believe she's already going.
My baby is growing up!
Mina, know that you are beloved, adored, and yes, even spoiled. We are proud of you. Most of all, know we are all trying to do our best by you.
She is so charming, she charms the pants off people. In fact, I've had to make several trips to Levi's to buy myself and other people pants that she's charmed off, that's how charming she is.
She has the best eyes. Large and dark, and long-lashed.
She has the prettiest curls. I can literally stare at them for hours. I twirl the ends of her hair on my forefinger and they turn into little ringlets. Little ringlets that stay until she jumps up and down and bounces the heck out of them.
When she was 18 mos. old I found this article about gifted children (not that I was searching for articles like that, who me?). One of the traits of gifted children is apparently advanced vocabulary. By 18 mos. Mina was speaking in 2-3 word sentences. I mean, pretty advanced is what I thought. Apparently, a vocabulary list of 100 before age 2 is almost always a sign of giftedness. I stopped at 100 even though she knew even more words than that. I was tickled pink.
Now at almost two (Aug. 15th!) I can pretty much hold a conversation with Mina. We negotiate, she tells me stories, she tells me what she's thinking. It's pretty amazing.
We are having a little get-together with just family this Saturday for her official birthday. Next weekend we are going to Disneyland! I can't wait!
She starts preschool on Tuesday. Yes, preschool. This is one baby that is really craving for companionship and more challenge, and I hope preschool gives it to her. I feel really good about the idea of preschool right now, but a part of me can't believe she's already going.
My baby is growing up!
Mina, know that you are beloved, adored, and yes, even spoiled. We are proud of you. Most of all, know we are all trying to do our best by you.
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Something to Post
I thought I would post something new here. What else can I say except more glowing things about you? You're a complete sunshine that overwhelms any grays that may descend on our household from time to time, and we all appreciate you for it.
You'll be two in a month, and I honestly can't believe it. I'm excited that you're growing up, but mourn the loss of my "baby". You'll always be my baby girl, and just get used to the idea, but I miss the baby babble, the chubbiness, the roundness, the creases in your arms from too much fat. I miss your wide-eyed helplessness and trust as you looked at me to just know what you needed, without you having to say anything. Now, you are very vocal, and clear in your speech to ever be misunderstood.
You'll be starting preschool next month. I decided to put you in preschool so early because you clearly love other kids, love to play and socialize, and I don't think you get enough of it. You have no cousins and, obviously, no siblings. You can follow commands pretty well, and are really good at sharing...I think you will love preschool. Since it's only 2 days a week, half days, it's a reasonable starting point. Anyway, I will miss you terribly. You will have to tell me everything you learn. :) Of course, it's about a mile from your Mama's place, so it's really more than ideal.
You'll be two in a month, and I honestly can't believe it. I'm excited that you're growing up, but mourn the loss of my "baby". You'll always be my baby girl, and just get used to the idea, but I miss the baby babble, the chubbiness, the roundness, the creases in your arms from too much fat. I miss your wide-eyed helplessness and trust as you looked at me to just know what you needed, without you having to say anything. Now, you are very vocal, and clear in your speech to ever be misunderstood.
You'll be starting preschool next month. I decided to put you in preschool so early because you clearly love other kids, love to play and socialize, and I don't think you get enough of it. You have no cousins and, obviously, no siblings. You can follow commands pretty well, and are really good at sharing...I think you will love preschool. Since it's only 2 days a week, half days, it's a reasonable starting point. Anyway, I will miss you terribly. You will have to tell me everything you learn. :) Of course, it's about a mile from your Mama's place, so it's really more than ideal.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Terrible Twos
I was crossing my fingers that you won't go through the terrible twos but today you threw your very first full-blown tantrum.
And it didn't get any better tonight. Basically, you've got 3 adults scrambling to see what will calm you down. I think next time, we're just gonna have to ignore you.
You've been increasingly contrary this past week. Won't hold hands while walking, needing a specific fork or spoon when eating, wont' let us help you eat even when your food is falling all over the place, won't let us help you drink. No, no, no on everything. You're getting on my nerves but I still love you to pieces.
Hope this storm passes quickly. Love you, sweetie.
And it didn't get any better tonight. Basically, you've got 3 adults scrambling to see what will calm you down. I think next time, we're just gonna have to ignore you.
You've been increasingly contrary this past week. Won't hold hands while walking, needing a specific fork or spoon when eating, wont' let us help you eat even when your food is falling all over the place, won't let us help you drink. No, no, no on everything. You're getting on my nerves but I still love you to pieces.
Hope this storm passes quickly. Love you, sweetie.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Daddy's Home
Dad's home for a few weeks before he's off to...gulp...Iraq. I'm going to enjoy our time together. That's what I'm gonna do. Then later, he'll be off to do the job that WE BOTH went into with our eyes wide open. Someone's gotta do it, and he will do it well, like he does everything.
I could hardly contain my excitment at the airport! Here's what Mina did when she saw her Dad. I think it's safe to say she remembers him.
The next day, he prepared breakfast for us. Here's Mina's plate. I love how he always emphasizes aesthetics when dining.
Here's the father and daughter duo playing! I love and have missed seeing this!
Woody at his favorite store: Teavana:
I have really missed going out as a family, sharing meals, watching movies and TV together, and just spending time all together. I feel complete.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Veggie-Eater
It's really a gratifying feeling seeing you eat your veggies! I mean, sure you ask for cookies and chips for breakfast (and no, I don't give them to you) but when presented with veggies you do your share of eating. Even eagerly opening your mouth and chasing the spoon full of veggies on it if we aren't fast enough to feed you.
Mommy really tried hard to make sure you love your veggies. From 6 mos. and on, I gave you a variety of strained veggies, and I've made a concerted effort to serve you with fruits and veggies every day. Most days, you have adequate servings of fruits and veggies, even though we may lack variety sometimes: we're partial to carrots and broccoli. But I've just recently discovered you love green beans, snap peas, peas, even cauliflower.
I am very happy. I make sure I savor my veggies around you too, to encourage love of veggies even more.
I hope this doesn't change as you grow older.
Mommy really tried hard to make sure you love your veggies. From 6 mos. and on, I gave you a variety of strained veggies, and I've made a concerted effort to serve you with fruits and veggies every day. Most days, you have adequate servings of fruits and veggies, even though we may lack variety sometimes: we're partial to carrots and broccoli. But I've just recently discovered you love green beans, snap peas, peas, even cauliflower.
I am very happy. I make sure I savor my veggies around you too, to encourage love of veggies even more.
I hope this doesn't change as you grow older.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Smile and Laugh
Reposted from my main blog.
Had a really good Mom's Day on Sunday. Had good food, conversation, did I mention the food?
Plus, something I dreaded would happen didn't end up happening. In fact, quite the opposite occurred and I was very pleasantly surprised. I know I'm not posting much of consequence, but you'd be bored with what I'm obsessed with right now anyway. Suffice to say that life is good, I'm itching to finish school. Our last day will be next week! I should get 1 A and 1 B. That's good enough for me.
Here's a picture of the three generations of Mom/Daughter sets. Taken on Mom's Day. I heart my family!
And for a good laugh, and a big clue to my current obsession, here's a video:
Had a really good Mom's Day on Sunday. Had good food, conversation, did I mention the food?
Plus, something I dreaded would happen didn't end up happening. In fact, quite the opposite occurred and I was very pleasantly surprised. I know I'm not posting much of consequence, but you'd be bored with what I'm obsessed with right now anyway. Suffice to say that life is good, I'm itching to finish school. Our last day will be next week! I should get 1 A and 1 B. That's good enough for me.
Here's a picture of the three generations of Mom/Daughter sets. Taken on Mom's Day. I heart my family!
And for a good laugh, and a big clue to my current obsession, here's a video:
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Dentist Visit
I forgot to write that two weeks ago, you visited a dentist for the first time!
Great office, it was made especially for little kids. I have never seen a more child-friendly office, with a video game nook, carpeted walls, and floor and a forest decor. Lots and lots of toys and books. Dr. Dino is great! I didn't know he would turn out to be Filipino either. :)
Inevitably, you cried while we held your mouth open so he could look in. But when we started to sing the Barney I love you song, you immediately went quiet and then went, "again!" through the doctor's hand in your mouth after we were finished. It came out sounding "agah!" but it was so hilarious.
No cavities, just a little plaque build up. Your next appointment's in October. :)
Great office, it was made especially for little kids. I have never seen a more child-friendly office, with a video game nook, carpeted walls, and floor and a forest decor. Lots and lots of toys and books. Dr. Dino is great! I didn't know he would turn out to be Filipino either. :)
Inevitably, you cried while we held your mouth open so he could look in. But when we started to sing the Barney I love you song, you immediately went quiet and then went, "again!" through the doctor's hand in your mouth after we were finished. It came out sounding "agah!" but it was so hilarious.
No cavities, just a little plaque build up. Your next appointment's in October. :)
Monday, April 27, 2009
Note To Mina
Dear Mina,
You're growing too fast. You're growing too soon. Haven't I asked you repeatedly, with plenty of pleases to please stay my baby a little while longer? Why must you break Mommy's heart so soon. You're running toward the Two's with open arms, a glint in your eye and a Wheee! to accompany it. I don't like it. Pause a little, sit here on Mommy's lap. There, was that so bad.
Oh dear, there you go again.
Tonight I told you two bedtime stories. Not one I read from a book, but one I made up myself. The lead character was Mina of course, and in both stories she was fighting Moomoos (monsters)and winning because she is tough and strong. I cradled you in my arms and you looked up at me with wide eyes, but with no grin. Just a very serious look, like you understood every word I said. And you did because you're so smart.
Daddy will be home in a month or so. He's gonna have his socks knocked off by how cute and adorable, and smart you are. I have never met a baby as charming a you and that is God's honest truth.
A baby. Soon to be a toddler. No hurry, ok? No hurry. Sit on my lap, in my arms and I'll tell you more stories.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Happy Easter
Hey baby girl,
You had your first Easter Egg hunt a week before Easter Sunday. What a great practice. It was through our local playgroup at the Veteran's Home and you went home with about twenty eggs or so. The actual Easter Sunday egg hunt we went to wasn't as organized and was quite rowdy. You made out with four eggs.
You're talking a lot more these days and even pretend to tell us stories at 20 mos. You have christened anyone starring in your stories the name "Malia". We know a Malia but no you don't play with her, not really.
We have signed you up for another round of Gym glass with Ms. Jenn, and dance class with Ms. Claudia. You're enjoying yourself as usual.
Let's see, at this point in time you weight 26 lbs. and you're 34 inc. in height. That's pretty good, you're a tall girl! I'll leave you with a photo of yourself in my favorite dress so far:
You had your first Easter Egg hunt a week before Easter Sunday. What a great practice. It was through our local playgroup at the Veteran's Home and you went home with about twenty eggs or so. The actual Easter Sunday egg hunt we went to wasn't as organized and was quite rowdy. You made out with four eggs.
You're talking a lot more these days and even pretend to tell us stories at 20 mos. You have christened anyone starring in your stories the name "Malia". We know a Malia but no you don't play with her, not really.
We have signed you up for another round of Gym glass with Ms. Jenn, and dance class with Ms. Claudia. You're enjoying yourself as usual.
Let's see, at this point in time you weight 26 lbs. and you're 34 inc. in height. That's pretty good, you're a tall girl! I'll leave you with a photo of yourself in my favorite dress so far:
Friday, April 3, 2009
Raising a Girl in Today's World
Recently, I posted something in my main blog about the perils of raising a girl in today's world and what I plan to do to avoid them. I thought it fit here perfectly, so I'm reposting.
Recently, Connie aka Sassy Lawyer wrote about a program at her daughter’s school with words “Becoming Men of Value” printed on it. This was dispensed to the graduates’ guests for their graduation ceremony. Connie does a good job raising different points about both the written program and the program itself. My main contention is the word MEN. For a mixed class of males and females. What happened to the females in the group? Didn’t anyone take a second look at those words and second-guess its propriety? Its accuracy? It tells a lot about the school. And I’m wondering why a loud hue and cry wasn’t raised from the students and parents alike about it. That tells me something too. IF there wasn’t enough complaints generated (and I don’t know if this is the case), then it tells me that enough parents and their daughters (and the men too) found nothing wrong with the words printed for a graduating class of mixed gender. Do they subconsciously hold their daughters’ worth as lower than the sons’?
You can tell it bugs me. I’m not really a feminist, but I’m a huge fan and a huge proponent of the idea of a strong, confident, competent female. A girl, a lady, a woman who is able to hold her own in a “man’s world”. I have strong women in my family. I didn’t grow up thinking I couldn’t do something because I’m a girl. I was expected to be smart, to be top in my class, to be talented…I was probably overindulged a bit. :)I grew up reading books about strong girls with amazing personalities and ethics. God bless Austen, and Lucy Maud Montgomery, and many others.
When I found out I was having a girl, I was delighted, and knew exactly the values I would emphasize for my daughter, and the values I would not.
No princess stuff. She is our world. We don’t have to emphasize that sentiment with stories of little princess who more often than not, are usually rescued by some prince charming. Screw that fantasy. My favorite version of Cinderella is the film Ever After, where the Cinderella character saves herself, because she wasn’t helpless. I am not against other moms who choose to do the princess things with their daughters. A strong character doesn’t necessarily exclude a love of princessy stuff. It’s just a personal choice with me. The backgrounds of each of these princess just smacks of damsel in distress. Ariel can’t return to normal unless a guy loves her and kisses her. Aurora of Snow White needs to be kissed as well to be rescued. Cinderella had to wait around for the prince to find her and put a slipper on her feet before she could get out of her miserable life…get the picture?
Give me a heroine with a bit more personality than these and I’ll promote them to Mina, no problem. Otherwise, I’ll continue to buy Winnie-the-Pooh paraphernalia from the Disney store.
NO TV. At least no cable TV. We’ll survive. Without TV, we’ll be forced to do some other activities for our entertainment. Mina does watch videos on the internet, of things like an Elmo Song on YouTube, or her own uploaded videos, or the occassional hip hop video (she really loves dancing), and videos of other kids dancing. I take her to dance and gym class a few times a week, I take her to the park. We read books, we draw, etc. I know she’ll probably be lured by a program or two when she’s older, but I hope by then I’ve instilled the joys of other activities in her.
When she’s older, we really may cut TV out altogether. Things slip through the cracks, as I’m sure you know. Even cable shows that are supposed to be family-friendly have a lot of sexual undertones to them nowadays. Who knows how much worse they’ll get in years’ time. I plan to talk to Mina about sex, but I don’t necessarily like how sex is portrayed on TV. Casual sex is portrayed as OK on television and movies.
Avoid Women’s/Teen Magazines. Is it possible? Probably not altogether. But I really hate the standard of beauty portrayed in those magazine. I’m sure you know what I mean already. I won’t bring them to the home and I’ll actively discourage her from buying them. Or if we buy them, we’ll discuss their level of reality.
Communicate. I plan to be frank about sex. I plan to be frank about issues surrounding women. The pressure to be thin, to look a certain way, to act a certain way. I will also listen. Probably the more important part. I plan to instill in her an understanding that how she feels and what she thinks matter. The goal is for her to want to communicate back once the iffy teen years come. Plant that sense of openness early on, and hope they remember it when their hormones are running amuck.
Stay with her Dad. I”m not joking. Statistics show again and again, that a girl without a father figure tries to find that father figure elsewhere, and it’s not always in a jovial and kind grandfather or uncle. It’s not always in positive ways. In fact, if you look among pregnant teen girls, and those who are sexually active early, statistics have the majority of them coming from single-parent homes headed by moms. I don’t propose staying in an unhappy marriage either. I have no advice. I just am glad I’m with a good man, who is an enthusiastic father who takes fatherhood seriously. I hope my Mina sees that and would want a guy just like her dad. I would have no problem.
Encourage. I don’t ever plan to say something like: “Are you sure you should do that? It’s only for boys.” To me, a girl - barring limitations based on physical differences - can do anything a guy can do. They can become anything they want to be.
I’m not naive. I know that there are a hecka of a lot of places where these sentiments aren’t shared; that in fact there are places they are actively repressed. I hope that changes some day soon. And I’ll do my part by starting at home, and raising a strong, confident, powerful girl.
Recently, Connie aka Sassy Lawyer wrote about a program at her daughter’s school with words “Becoming Men of Value” printed on it. This was dispensed to the graduates’ guests for their graduation ceremony. Connie does a good job raising different points about both the written program and the program itself. My main contention is the word MEN. For a mixed class of males and females. What happened to the females in the group? Didn’t anyone take a second look at those words and second-guess its propriety? Its accuracy? It tells a lot about the school. And I’m wondering why a loud hue and cry wasn’t raised from the students and parents alike about it. That tells me something too. IF there wasn’t enough complaints generated (and I don’t know if this is the case), then it tells me that enough parents and their daughters (and the men too) found nothing wrong with the words printed for a graduating class of mixed gender. Do they subconsciously hold their daughters’ worth as lower than the sons’?
You can tell it bugs me. I’m not really a feminist, but I’m a huge fan and a huge proponent of the idea of a strong, confident, competent female. A girl, a lady, a woman who is able to hold her own in a “man’s world”. I have strong women in my family. I didn’t grow up thinking I couldn’t do something because I’m a girl. I was expected to be smart, to be top in my class, to be talented…I was probably overindulged a bit. :)I grew up reading books about strong girls with amazing personalities and ethics. God bless Austen, and Lucy Maud Montgomery, and many others.
When I found out I was having a girl, I was delighted, and knew exactly the values I would emphasize for my daughter, and the values I would not.
No princess stuff. She is our world. We don’t have to emphasize that sentiment with stories of little princess who more often than not, are usually rescued by some prince charming. Screw that fantasy. My favorite version of Cinderella is the film Ever After, where the Cinderella character saves herself, because she wasn’t helpless. I am not against other moms who choose to do the princess things with their daughters. A strong character doesn’t necessarily exclude a love of princessy stuff. It’s just a personal choice with me. The backgrounds of each of these princess just smacks of damsel in distress. Ariel can’t return to normal unless a guy loves her and kisses her. Aurora of Snow White needs to be kissed as well to be rescued. Cinderella had to wait around for the prince to find her and put a slipper on her feet before she could get out of her miserable life…get the picture?
Give me a heroine with a bit more personality than these and I’ll promote them to Mina, no problem. Otherwise, I’ll continue to buy Winnie-the-Pooh paraphernalia from the Disney store.
NO TV. At least no cable TV. We’ll survive. Without TV, we’ll be forced to do some other activities for our entertainment. Mina does watch videos on the internet, of things like an Elmo Song on YouTube, or her own uploaded videos, or the occassional hip hop video (she really loves dancing), and videos of other kids dancing. I take her to dance and gym class a few times a week, I take her to the park. We read books, we draw, etc. I know she’ll probably be lured by a program or two when she’s older, but I hope by then I’ve instilled the joys of other activities in her.
When she’s older, we really may cut TV out altogether. Things slip through the cracks, as I’m sure you know. Even cable shows that are supposed to be family-friendly have a lot of sexual undertones to them nowadays. Who knows how much worse they’ll get in years’ time. I plan to talk to Mina about sex, but I don’t necessarily like how sex is portrayed on TV. Casual sex is portrayed as OK on television and movies.
Avoid Women’s/Teen Magazines. Is it possible? Probably not altogether. But I really hate the standard of beauty portrayed in those magazine. I’m sure you know what I mean already. I won’t bring them to the home and I’ll actively discourage her from buying them. Or if we buy them, we’ll discuss their level of reality.
Communicate. I plan to be frank about sex. I plan to be frank about issues surrounding women. The pressure to be thin, to look a certain way, to act a certain way. I will also listen. Probably the more important part. I plan to instill in her an understanding that how she feels and what she thinks matter. The goal is for her to want to communicate back once the iffy teen years come. Plant that sense of openness early on, and hope they remember it when their hormones are running amuck.
Stay with her Dad. I”m not joking. Statistics show again and again, that a girl without a father figure tries to find that father figure elsewhere, and it’s not always in a jovial and kind grandfather or uncle. It’s not always in positive ways. In fact, if you look among pregnant teen girls, and those who are sexually active early, statistics have the majority of them coming from single-parent homes headed by moms. I don’t propose staying in an unhappy marriage either. I have no advice. I just am glad I’m with a good man, who is an enthusiastic father who takes fatherhood seriously. I hope my Mina sees that and would want a guy just like her dad. I would have no problem.
Encourage. I don’t ever plan to say something like: “Are you sure you should do that? It’s only for boys.” To me, a girl - barring limitations based on physical differences - can do anything a guy can do. They can become anything they want to be.
I’m not naive. I know that there are a hecka of a lot of places where these sentiments aren’t shared; that in fact there are places they are actively repressed. I hope that changes some day soon. And I’ll do my part by starting at home, and raising a strong, confident, powerful girl.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Mommy (and Daddy) Resources
Now that Mina is older (almost a toddler! Ack!), I don't have a compulsion to check every single milestones, events, acts, that happen for her against sources like the BabyCenter, Babiesonline Blog, and other parenting sites like Parents Connect. I think the first few weeks I had her I would literally check every parent site on a daily basis, as well as my trusty What to Expect the First Year book. And now the compulsion has died down. I've gained confidence in my parenting abilities.
If you're a new parent, know that there are resources out there, online, literally a few clicks away. Remember that parents have been there before you and have survived. You will too. I promise.
You're guilty about feeling angry, frustrated. You're worried about your baby's poopy diaper, about how much or how little they're eating or drinking. Whatever your worries are. Don't panic. Check out the resources available to you. Your questions probably all have simple answers.
Now that I'm a parent of soon-to-be-toddler, I have a new set of questions. When should she start preschool? Is really that important? How do I get her to practice her large and fine motor skills? I start noticing differences between her and kids her age. Should I work on the things she isn't good at, and other kids are? Am I being too authoritative in my discipline style, or am I doing it just right? She is a really well-behaved baby, my little Mina; have I stifled her too much?
Like Baby Center, Parents Connect have resources for babies and toddlers, but also for kids, preteens and teens. Because we all know that as parents, we'll need all the help we can get, right?
If you're a new parent, know that there are resources out there, online, literally a few clicks away. Remember that parents have been there before you and have survived. You will too. I promise.
You're guilty about feeling angry, frustrated. You're worried about your baby's poopy diaper, about how much or how little they're eating or drinking. Whatever your worries are. Don't panic. Check out the resources available to you. Your questions probably all have simple answers.
Now that I'm a parent of soon-to-be-toddler, I have a new set of questions. When should she start preschool? Is really that important? How do I get her to practice her large and fine motor skills? I start noticing differences between her and kids her age. Should I work on the things she isn't good at, and other kids are? Am I being too authoritative in my discipline style, or am I doing it just right? She is a really well-behaved baby, my little Mina; have I stifled her too much?
Like Baby Center, Parents Connect have resources for babies and toddlers, but also for kids, preteens and teens. Because we all know that as parents, we'll need all the help we can get, right?
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Melting Hearts
Mina is the most charming, funniest, cutest baby I know. I know I'm biased okay, but she's really hilarious. I used to read that nothing can prepare you as a parent for the love and joy that your children can bring into your lives. All I can say is they were right.
For every innocent joyful laughter, every request for a "kish" complete with both hands on my cheeks. For every request for a hug complete with a pat on the back. For every smile, for every new expression, new word learned, new developmental milestone crossed...for everything there is an exponential burst of just amazing feeling. She is joy encapsulated. She is wonderful, and loving. I am glad of all of it because it means I must be doing something right, right?
She is developing at warp speed and surprises me everyday with the phrases she can complete. She can express herself so well and according to the books she is months ahead of schedule. Most toddlers start with 2-word phrases at age 2 years of age. She can speak in 3 and sometimes 4 word sentences at 18 months.
She loves dancing, she loves singing, and watching videos of herself. I need to take her outdoors more often as we don't always go on our morning walk anymore. I used to take her 3-4 times a week but I'm sure we'll get back to that as the weather progresses. She goes to two toddler classes which end next week. Meaning I have to sign her up for something else soon.
She eats like crazy. I see no evidence of a stop-i'm-full signal. If she sees something new she will eat it. I have to really firmly tell her no a lot. And hide food. Oh boy, that is no joke. I'm trying not to worry. A parent can always find something to worry about. She's in the 50th percentile for weight actually so there is no reason to worry. Her favorite food group is carbs but I'm glas she likes healthy stuff too like cheerios, apple, and carrots. Broccoli has to be cooked exactly right to be accepted, not too hard, not too mushy. Same goes for zucchini and squash.
I'm kinda stagnant in introducing new and healthy foods to her like, I don't know, legumes and such. I tell myself I have no time but I know I can find the time if only I organize myself better. But her diet is at least pretty good most of the time. She gets her portion of fish, and meats, and fruits and veggies. She eats a bit too much rice still in my taste but I've decided not to worry about that. Once we are living on our own, we'll have much more control of what goes into her tummy, and rice will be curbed to no more than one serving a day. She does like noodles though.
Well, if you've stayed here this long, I should reward you with a video of the charming one.
Here she is in her dance class for toddlers.
For every innocent joyful laughter, every request for a "kish" complete with both hands on my cheeks. For every request for a hug complete with a pat on the back. For every smile, for every new expression, new word learned, new developmental milestone crossed...for everything there is an exponential burst of just amazing feeling. She is joy encapsulated. She is wonderful, and loving. I am glad of all of it because it means I must be doing something right, right?
She is developing at warp speed and surprises me everyday with the phrases she can complete. She can express herself so well and according to the books she is months ahead of schedule. Most toddlers start with 2-word phrases at age 2 years of age. She can speak in 3 and sometimes 4 word sentences at 18 months.
She loves dancing, she loves singing, and watching videos of herself. I need to take her outdoors more often as we don't always go on our morning walk anymore. I used to take her 3-4 times a week but I'm sure we'll get back to that as the weather progresses. She goes to two toddler classes which end next week. Meaning I have to sign her up for something else soon.
She eats like crazy. I see no evidence of a stop-i'm-full signal. If she sees something new she will eat it. I have to really firmly tell her no a lot. And hide food. Oh boy, that is no joke. I'm trying not to worry. A parent can always find something to worry about. She's in the 50th percentile for weight actually so there is no reason to worry. Her favorite food group is carbs but I'm glas she likes healthy stuff too like cheerios, apple, and carrots. Broccoli has to be cooked exactly right to be accepted, not too hard, not too mushy. Same goes for zucchini and squash.
I'm kinda stagnant in introducing new and healthy foods to her like, I don't know, legumes and such. I tell myself I have no time but I know I can find the time if only I organize myself better. But her diet is at least pretty good most of the time. She gets her portion of fish, and meats, and fruits and veggies. She eats a bit too much rice still in my taste but I've decided not to worry about that. Once we are living on our own, we'll have much more control of what goes into her tummy, and rice will be curbed to no more than one serving a day. She does like noodles though.
Well, if you've stayed here this long, I should reward you with a video of the charming one.
Here she is in her dance class for toddlers.
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
The BIG errrr....TWO-NINE
Okay, so I'm not quite the Big 3-0 yet. To be honest, I'm okay staying 29. Or even my current age (for two more days) of 28. Really, I'm okay. I'll stay that way if you please. You, being the collective universe, father time, mother nature, the fountain of youth, etc. etc.
I always thought I'd be one of those people who would age gracefully. I would look at wrinkles as a sign I've smiled too much and lived a lot. I would never be one of those people who lied about their age, or admitted their age with regret. I never thought I'd care, but it turns out I'm as flawed as the next human being. I do care very much. Maybe if I'd done everything I wanted to do, I'd actually be looking forward to planning a 30th b-day looming a year from now; and be a pro once I got to a point of time to start gathering 50th birthday party ideas. The problem is I feel like I haven't done much. I wanted to go to Paris by my 30th bday party and that's probably not gonna happen. I promised myself that trip when I was 15 years old! I was also supposed to go white-water rafting, and sky-diving. I'm supposed to be fitter than ever, and rich. Yes, I know money isn't everything but my imaginations always had me living a fabulous life. I'm supposed to be published already, or at least with a fluorishing career I could be proud of....
I better stop. My life may not have turned out the way I imagined it to (I mean, I was in High School when this fantasy life was planned) , and maybe time is passing by too fast, but I am happy and have much to be grateful for. Kids, this is Mom being self-pitying and being an ageist. I mean, 29 isn't old. It's the new 19...riiiiiight?
I won't be celebrating big for my 29th, and I'm not holding out on a special 30th. Woody will probably still be in Iraq, so I don't think he'll be able to throw me a 30th suprise party. I refuse to get depressed over something that shouldn't be depressing. I'll just browse this website on unique party ideas to mark the special time. What could I do different? Maybe a trip to Hawaii, and a few special friends to hopefully join me in an intimate luau on the beach. Everyone has to have a lei, or a Hawaiian shirt/clothing. I'd be really fit from working out hard and steady for a year (haha!) and I'd be in a fabulous sarong and bikini top. My cake will be a mango cake, and a Hawaiian ukelele will be playing Happy Birthday by a Hawaiian dude.
Or who knows, maybe Woody WILL be back by then, and then we're off to freaking Morocco and Paris like I always wanted!
I always thought I'd be one of those people who would age gracefully. I would look at wrinkles as a sign I've smiled too much and lived a lot. I would never be one of those people who lied about their age, or admitted their age with regret. I never thought I'd care, but it turns out I'm as flawed as the next human being. I do care very much. Maybe if I'd done everything I wanted to do, I'd actually be looking forward to planning a 30th b-day looming a year from now; and be a pro once I got to a point of time to start gathering 50th birthday party ideas. The problem is I feel like I haven't done much. I wanted to go to Paris by my 30th bday party and that's probably not gonna happen. I promised myself that trip when I was 15 years old! I was also supposed to go white-water rafting, and sky-diving. I'm supposed to be fitter than ever, and rich. Yes, I know money isn't everything but my imaginations always had me living a fabulous life. I'm supposed to be published already, or at least with a fluorishing career I could be proud of....
I better stop. My life may not have turned out the way I imagined it to (I mean, I was in High School when this fantasy life was planned) , and maybe time is passing by too fast, but I am happy and have much to be grateful for. Kids, this is Mom being self-pitying and being an ageist. I mean, 29 isn't old. It's the new 19...riiiiiight?
I won't be celebrating big for my 29th, and I'm not holding out on a special 30th. Woody will probably still be in Iraq, so I don't think he'll be able to throw me a 30th suprise party. I refuse to get depressed over something that shouldn't be depressing. I'll just browse this website on unique party ideas to mark the special time. What could I do different? Maybe a trip to Hawaii, and a few special friends to hopefully join me in an intimate luau on the beach. Everyone has to have a lei, or a Hawaiian shirt/clothing. I'd be really fit from working out hard and steady for a year (haha!) and I'd be in a fabulous sarong and bikini top. My cake will be a mango cake, and a Hawaiian ukelele will be playing Happy Birthday by a Hawaiian dude.
Or who knows, maybe Woody WILL be back by then, and then we're off to freaking Morocco and Paris like I always wanted!
Monday, February 9, 2009
Note to Mina
Hi little girl,
I sure miss your Daddy. I'm not sure if I'm doing a good job balancing school, spending time with you, and keeping up with everything else. I hope I am. You're smiling a lot, not losing weight (not gaining a lot of weight either though), you're happy. I try to get you some fruites and veggies everyday, although you're still getting a lot of rice in your diet. That's ok, one step at at time. We go to a dance/movement class called Toddlers Tango, Babies Boogie, and you love it! We also go to a gym class on Saturdays which you do ok with. Next time, we're putting you back with Ms. Jenn's gym class though. There's something off-putting about this teacher.
You just love watching any type of videos on the computer, but most especially videos of yourself. We're cranking out videos at a rate of two per week, and you lap it all up. :)
You enjoy crackers and cookies now, and repeatedly ask for them for breakfast. I have to say no of course. Note though that I only give you organic crackers. We don't have any cookies in the house, but you usually get one or two from your Lola's (Papa's sister) house on Sundays.
You're bored with your toys already, and really have no favorites, although you still find joy in the newest one, a finger bunny puppet.
You talk a lot, and regularly say 3 word sentences. You can identify a lot of objects from pictures, like pigs, cats, elephants, socks, spoon, airplane...a lot more hun. I can't remembe them all. I think you're smart and gifted and I along with everybody else, pretty much adore you. I better follow up with a sibling soon so you won't get completely spoiled.
I sure miss your Daddy. I'm not sure if I'm doing a good job balancing school, spending time with you, and keeping up with everything else. I hope I am. You're smiling a lot, not losing weight (not gaining a lot of weight either though), you're happy. I try to get you some fruites and veggies everyday, although you're still getting a lot of rice in your diet. That's ok, one step at at time. We go to a dance/movement class called Toddlers Tango, Babies Boogie, and you love it! We also go to a gym class on Saturdays which you do ok with. Next time, we're putting you back with Ms. Jenn's gym class though. There's something off-putting about this teacher.
You just love watching any type of videos on the computer, but most especially videos of yourself. We're cranking out videos at a rate of two per week, and you lap it all up. :)
You enjoy crackers and cookies now, and repeatedly ask for them for breakfast. I have to say no of course. Note though that I only give you organic crackers. We don't have any cookies in the house, but you usually get one or two from your Lola's (Papa's sister) house on Sundays.
You're bored with your toys already, and really have no favorites, although you still find joy in the newest one, a finger bunny puppet.
You talk a lot, and regularly say 3 word sentences. You can identify a lot of objects from pictures, like pigs, cats, elephants, socks, spoon, airplane...a lot more hun. I can't remembe them all. I think you're smart and gifted and I along with everybody else, pretty much adore you. I better follow up with a sibling soon so you won't get completely spoiled.
Friday, January 23, 2009
Mina Can Count!
Watch her count...if you're not Filipino, the language she's counting in is Tagalog :)
Friday, January 16, 2009
Sleeping Blues
I have back issues. I hate to admit it because I sound so old! Only old people, and lame people talk about having back problems (no, you're not lame or old; I am).
Since I've had Mina though, my back has definitely grown weaker. I need to work out, maybe do Pilates and other strength training exercises. And I need a better bed. I have a firm mattress. I don't know if that's good for me. Maybe I need a softer one? I have no idea. I may have to get an evaluation with my chiropractor.
Aside from my back and bed not getting along, I have a thief in the night who continuously steals my sleep away. That would be a 32-inch, 17-month old, curly-haired terror (no, she's not reallyl a terror). My mom let Mina sleep next to her last week when I started school and I couldn't get home until 9:30 pm. BIG MISTAKE. Let me say that again, BIG MISTAKE!
Now all Mina wants is to sleep beside me. But does she stay sleeping next to me, unmoving, peacefully, like a normal person would? No, she squirms and kicks and pushes, and wakes up and then asks me to kiss and hug her about 20 times. Now I looove kissing and hugging her, but not at 2 in the morning.
If I had a lower bed, maybe I wouldn't mind having her in bed with me. I could get one of those low divan beds and I'd just roll off and lay on the floor and not worry she'll fall off. She can kick and squirm all she wants, and I'll just surround her by pillows. On second thought, a floor is harder than my mattress.
How do I get a better night's sleep!
What makes a good sleep? Does it matter what a bed looks like? In the beginning, yes, it does. They're definitely what gets you to buy them in the first place (and Time 4 Sleep has a wide selection of pretty beds; too bad they're in the UK).
In the end though, what matters is whether you have a good mattress and whether you have an agreeable bed partner.
Since I've had Mina though, my back has definitely grown weaker. I need to work out, maybe do Pilates and other strength training exercises. And I need a better bed. I have a firm mattress. I don't know if that's good for me. Maybe I need a softer one? I have no idea. I may have to get an evaluation with my chiropractor.
Aside from my back and bed not getting along, I have a thief in the night who continuously steals my sleep away. That would be a 32-inch, 17-month old, curly-haired terror (no, she's not reallyl a terror). My mom let Mina sleep next to her last week when I started school and I couldn't get home until 9:30 pm. BIG MISTAKE. Let me say that again, BIG MISTAKE!
Now all Mina wants is to sleep beside me. But does she stay sleeping next to me, unmoving, peacefully, like a normal person would? No, she squirms and kicks and pushes, and wakes up and then asks me to kiss and hug her about 20 times. Now I looove kissing and hugging her, but not at 2 in the morning.
If I had a lower bed, maybe I wouldn't mind having her in bed with me. I could get one of those low divan beds and I'd just roll off and lay on the floor and not worry she'll fall off. She can kick and squirm all she wants, and I'll just surround her by pillows. On second thought, a floor is harder than my mattress.
How do I get a better night's sleep!
What makes a good sleep? Does it matter what a bed looks like? In the beginning, yes, it does. They're definitely what gets you to buy them in the first place (and Time 4 Sleep has a wide selection of pretty beds; too bad they're in the UK).
In the end though, what matters is whether you have a good mattress and whether you have an agreeable bed partner.
Monday, January 12, 2009
Eat Healthy So You'll Grow Healthy
Peacekeeping Note: I don't mean to offend any parents out there. This is strictly to encourage and educate.
I am reading a book right now called the Baby Book Bible, and it's quoting some really sad statistics of rising number of kids who are overweight and eating junk food.
As a Filipino, I have noticed that our culture has a penchant for adding a lot of salt via actual salt or patis (fish sauce), and frying our dishes in a lot of oil, and eat a LOT of pork. We usually top all of that with a lot of rice. And veggies in our diet are more likely to be in dishes that have been boiled and have therefore stripped the veggies of most of it's nutrients.
For my non Filipino friends, they have their own dietary problems, usually concerning the same thing: lots of fried, lots of carbs, and lack of veggies and fruits in their diet. It's a sobering reality in my life right now that a lot of people I know have diabetes, are overweight, have kidney problems, etc. etc.
I went to a Christmas party last season, and Mina and I wandered to the "kids" area. All the kids were 11 and under, some just 2 and 3 years old. They were all watching TV and had been for hours. Either that or playing video games. I've given my opinion on TV watching but I understand it's the holidays. Even if the parent's rule were no TV, or limited TV, the rules may have been relaxed for the vacation.
There was a 2/3 year old there who had her own bag of chips. Mina loves crackers and corn chips, and when she saw the girl's bag, she wanted some. I let her have two. Mina wandered away, and I followed her only to follow her back again some time later. The little girl now had another bag of chips, this time a flaming hot cheetos. This, I wouldn't let Mina taste.
Chips as snacks. Fried foods as snacks. This is the normal snack for a toddler in many household.
I don't think it's too much to for parents to limit these things EVEN during the holidays. Is it?
Parents need to be simply more dilligent in watching what their kids eat. What you eat, and what they eat now, is what they'll be eating the rest of their lives. Learn recipes to make veggies more palatable for you and then introduce them to your kids before 18 mos. old. Insist they finish their veggies, and make it delicious, and show them that you have fun eating it, so they will too.
Start with something easy that all kids will love, like carrots and corn, and broccoli. Broccoli is easy to make delicious. Just steam, put a pat of butter on top and sprinkle with cheese. Mina loves it!
Then start branching out to zucchini, squash, bell peppers, etc. Remember, it takes at least 8 times of trying to feed your child a food before you can really conclude they don't like it. That's how long they make take to get used to it. Other experts say 16 times. Just keep trying and don't give up.
For afternoon snacks? What's more nutritious and delicious than a bunch of cut up apples, pears, strawberries, or wedges of oranges? To make it even more appetizing, whip it into a yogurt smoothie using a blender and serve it as dessert. They'll get the sweet but with loaded nutrients than just a slice of chocolate cake.
As a parent, it is up to you make sure you child grow up happy and healthy. One of the best ways to do that is to give them a foundation of healthy eating. It will "school" their tongue to always crave fruits and veggies instead of friend snacks, junk foods and processed foods, if you start them as young as possible.
If you child is all grown up, it is not too late. It is never too late. Let's all make 2009 the year we cut down on the junk foods and pile up on fruits and veggies!
I am reading a book right now called the Baby Book Bible, and it's quoting some really sad statistics of rising number of kids who are overweight and eating junk food.
As a Filipino, I have noticed that our culture has a penchant for adding a lot of salt via actual salt or patis (fish sauce), and frying our dishes in a lot of oil, and eat a LOT of pork. We usually top all of that with a lot of rice. And veggies in our diet are more likely to be in dishes that have been boiled and have therefore stripped the veggies of most of it's nutrients.
For my non Filipino friends, they have their own dietary problems, usually concerning the same thing: lots of fried, lots of carbs, and lack of veggies and fruits in their diet. It's a sobering reality in my life right now that a lot of people I know have diabetes, are overweight, have kidney problems, etc. etc.
I went to a Christmas party last season, and Mina and I wandered to the "kids" area. All the kids were 11 and under, some just 2 and 3 years old. They were all watching TV and had been for hours. Either that or playing video games. I've given my opinion on TV watching but I understand it's the holidays. Even if the parent's rule were no TV, or limited TV, the rules may have been relaxed for the vacation.
There was a 2/3 year old there who had her own bag of chips. Mina loves crackers and corn chips, and when she saw the girl's bag, she wanted some. I let her have two. Mina wandered away, and I followed her only to follow her back again some time later. The little girl now had another bag of chips, this time a flaming hot cheetos. This, I wouldn't let Mina taste.
Chips as snacks. Fried foods as snacks. This is the normal snack for a toddler in many household.
I don't think it's too much to for parents to limit these things EVEN during the holidays. Is it?
Parents need to be simply more dilligent in watching what their kids eat. What you eat, and what they eat now, is what they'll be eating the rest of their lives. Learn recipes to make veggies more palatable for you and then introduce them to your kids before 18 mos. old. Insist they finish their veggies, and make it delicious, and show them that you have fun eating it, so they will too.
Start with something easy that all kids will love, like carrots and corn, and broccoli. Broccoli is easy to make delicious. Just steam, put a pat of butter on top and sprinkle with cheese. Mina loves it!
Then start branching out to zucchini, squash, bell peppers, etc. Remember, it takes at least 8 times of trying to feed your child a food before you can really conclude they don't like it. That's how long they make take to get used to it. Other experts say 16 times. Just keep trying and don't give up.
For afternoon snacks? What's more nutritious and delicious than a bunch of cut up apples, pears, strawberries, or wedges of oranges? To make it even more appetizing, whip it into a yogurt smoothie using a blender and serve it as dessert. They'll get the sweet but with loaded nutrients than just a slice of chocolate cake.
As a parent, it is up to you make sure you child grow up happy and healthy. One of the best ways to do that is to give them a foundation of healthy eating. It will "school" their tongue to always crave fruits and veggies instead of friend snacks, junk foods and processed foods, if you start them as young as possible.
If you child is all grown up, it is not too late. It is never too late. Let's all make 2009 the year we cut down on the junk foods and pile up on fruits and veggies!
Monday, January 5, 2009
More Mina News
Mina, you Dad has gone away for a few months and he'll be back. In the meantime, he is entrusting me your complete well-being; your healthy, your eating habits, your social and emotional happiness. I am honored to step in when he can't for now.
I don't know if you're aware of this, but your Dad simply ADORES you. Everyone does, but it's pretty special coming from your Dad, because your Dad is pretty special. You've got his heart cupped firmly in the cusp of your hand.
What makes your Dad so special?
He is funny, patient, generous, considerate, loving, loves being with his family, loves us above all, takes care of us, is very unique...Trust me on this little one, there is no one like your father out there. He defies category, and can't be boxed down.
As for you little one, you are currently 23 lbs. and 32 inches. This places you in the 59th and 93rd percentile for kids your age!
You can do somersaults.
You can say three-word phrases like "I like it".
You've done the potty a few times but we're not rushing you, and you haven't mastered it.
YOu love dancing.
YOu love watching videos of you!
YOu like singing; like, not love but that's good enough for me
Your love affair with Elmo seems over.
YOu're very affectionate. I am soaking it all up because I know you won't be like this forever.
This is officially my favorite age of yours! :)
I don't know if you're aware of this, but your Dad simply ADORES you. Everyone does, but it's pretty special coming from your Dad, because your Dad is pretty special. You've got his heart cupped firmly in the cusp of your hand.
What makes your Dad so special?
He is funny, patient, generous, considerate, loving, loves being with his family, loves us above all, takes care of us, is very unique...Trust me on this little one, there is no one like your father out there. He defies category, and can't be boxed down.
As for you little one, you are currently 23 lbs. and 32 inches. This places you in the 59th and 93rd percentile for kids your age!
You can do somersaults.
You can say three-word phrases like "I like it".
You've done the potty a few times but we're not rushing you, and you haven't mastered it.
YOu love dancing.
YOu love watching videos of you!
YOu like singing; like, not love but that's good enough for me
Your love affair with Elmo seems over.
YOu're very affectionate. I am soaking it all up because I know you won't be like this forever.
This is officially my favorite age of yours! :)
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